Rebel: You are 100% accurate in your assessment. As a householder, who did attend meetings, it was very evident to me how much time we wasted on niceties and conversation at my house. It was only at the KH, where we felt we had to keep our toddlers quiet and attentive. We felt that we were always under surveillance. They always had someone on duty in the hallway, monitoring even your human needs. My husband was followed into the bathroom, while experiencing digestive problems. He was sitting on the toilet, when the elder informed him that he was "missing the meeting!" (never mind the fact that the talk was being piped into the bathroom over a speaker)... in other words, you can't even take a dump, without our knowing about it...?
Concurrently in another town, my 6-year old niece informed my mother, "Grandma, my mom told me that I can't spend the night at your house tonight, unless you agree to come to the meeting with us tomorrow..."